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Dear Mummy To Be…

My wonderful younger cousin came to visit me a couple of weeks ago, and she is happily expecting her first baby in a couple of months.  Just chatting with her I could feel her excitement, nerves and anticipation, and as a mum of two little ones I felt compelled to share a little bit of well-meaning advice and experience from one mum, to a mum to be.

This got me thinking. If I could go back in time and give myself some advice, what would I tell myself?

I think it would go something like this…

Sleep – Like you’ve not seen a duvet before,

Sleep ’til you’re rested, then sleep a bit more.

Nip – To the shops, or the bank, just go, fast.

“Just nipping” will soon be a thing of your past.

Watch – Kids TV.

Then… (Although I’m a fan).

TURN IT STRAIGHT OFF while the fudge you still can!!

Browse – Take your time as you fritter your cash,

The next fair few trips will be more “Grab and Dash”.

Plan – You can have one.  No need to say more.

Just trust that you know what your day has in store.

Eat – without sharing.  Just eat it for you.

(At no point should Kit Kats be scoffed in the loo!) *Innocent face*

Drink – And enjoy every hot cup of tea.

“Hot” will be soon just a vague memory.

Chat – On the phone, face to face, with a friend.

Manage a sentence, beginning to end.

Bathe – With a candle, and no background noise.

Soak in a tub with distinct lack of toys.

Gasp – at the end of your ironing pile.

You may not encounter this sight for a while.

Breathe – Whilst your status is still “Nearly Mum”,

It’s highly unlikely you’ll sniff someone’s bum.

Wear – Make-up, shoes, tiny handbag, the lot!

(Just not stretchy pants with obligatory snot).

Cleanse – May your make-up be soothed from your face,

With soft cotton wool (rather than pillow case).

Swear! – Because one day, if things get quite tough,

“Fudge!” “Poop!” and “Bumfluff!” Might not be enough.

Stop!! – Hitting Google with each little kick.

You’ll KNOW when it’s labour and not Braxton Hick.

Rejoice – That you don’t cross your legs when you sneeze.

Be proud – That your nipples are not by your knees.

Love – All your family and those you hold dear.

You’ll realise their worth as you live this next year.

Be brave –  This adventure was made just for you.

It might be quite tough but you’ll always pull through.

Smile – At the trivial things in this list.

In truth, you will find that they’ll barely be missed.

Glow… As the best of your days are to come.

And nothing compares to just being a Mum.

To Hannah with love.

I’ll always be here for you.

Dawn x



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63 thoughts on “Dear Mummy To Be…

  1. Love this. At 20 weeks I am trying to do every one of those things. I’m excited about what’s to come but trying to make the most of these last few months that me & the hubby can do things as and when we please – and the fact I can indulge in carefree sneezes!

  2. Brilliant
    You did forget: Revel in your ability to go to the bathroom solo.

    Scoffing Kit Kats made me laugh I’m forever shoving food in my mouth on the sly but my children are like sniffer dogs. They sniff and know what I’ve eaten and then they tell me off that I didn’t “share”. Damn that sharing rule.

  3. Amazing poem! All those traits feel like they’ll last a lifetime but it does change…it will?…won’t it? My teenagers are still yelling for me from behind closed bedroom doors when I’m in the downstairs loo! At least they’re are talking to me I suppose!

    1. You have teenagers? Wow what’s that like?? I suppose there is at least a slight improvement if you get to wee with the door shut? (And nobody trying to blow raspberries on your knees while you try to answer Nature’s call – I mean really? Is 30 seconds to have a wee just too much to ask?)

      Well done for having teenagers that talk to you. I understand that this is a massive achievement. High five to you! Sending wine! X

    1. Thank you. To be fair I think if I’d read it while I was expecting my first I’d have been a but “Meh!?” I think we probably only appreciate these things once we’ve actually been there? Thanks so much for your lovely comment x

  4. I always think how are you going to make your next rhyme even better than the last and you always do! A fab one again and I seriously think this needs to be pinned up in midwife clinics everywhere so expectant Mums can follow this. I wish I had seen this before oldest arrived! 🙂

  5. Hi Dawn, many a true word said in jest. If Hannah follows your advice she’ll do just fine.

    Making the most of carrying a small handbag is excellent advice as it’s going to be a long time before she gets to carry one again, once the baby comes. And as for hot tea, that does become a thing of the past, as does holding an uninterrupted conversation with a friend.



    1. Thank you Debbie. The funny things is that if someone had told me all these things I would have laughed them all off! It’s funny what little things you take for granted pre – child though. I am so excited if I get to go out with a tiny handbag!

      Thanks for your lovely comment.
      Dawn x

  6. So amazing, all new Mummy’s should read this! All so true and yet so, so beautiful at the same time. Absolutely loved it. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

    1. Exciting times! I think the only problem is that towards the end you tend to get so much well meaning advice that it tends to blow your mind? If nothing else just know that it’s amazing and worth every second. Good luck for the big day xx

  7. Oh Dawn, how beautiful! How lucky your cousin is to have you!! I wish I had read this before baby number one, or had someone who cared enough to want to share something like this with me! You have succeeded in making me cry again!!
    Thanks so much for sharing with #bigpinklink. Xx

  8. Oh my goodness, the best thing about returning to work after Mat leave is having a hot brew. Ahh its incredible. I’ve become a real tea junky and I love standing around chatting without watching for Henry creating havoc and danger. Might go and put the kettle on now, oh no wait, he’s hanging off my leg whilst I type. There is always tomorrow :o) #bestandworst

  9. What a beautiful and creative way to share some wisdom to all the moms to be. I love that the piece turns from doing the simplest things while you still can, to being brave, proud and rejoicing. Your words sum up motherhood eloquently and it’s a fantastic reminder of how challenging and satisfying it can all be. Thank you for sharing this with us. Sharing this beautiful piece on my social media outlets, next week. So glad I found you on Prose for Thought today!

    1. Hi Maria. Thank you for such a lovely and meaningful comment! I’m so pleased that you enjoyed it and I’m very grateful to you for sharing my post! I’ll be popping back to Prose for Thought in a little bit and I’ll look forward to finding you too. Thank you again.

      Dawn x

  10. Awe what a great piece of writing! You should have it printed out and put on canvas for her to hang on her wall. All is so true. I took so much for granted before I was a mommy. And even though I do get a nice hot bubble bath a few times a week it’s usually never without calling my teenager on his cell phone to ask who is running around after I’ve put everyone to bed?!?! Thank you so much for linking with me for #momsterslink.

    1. You mean I still won’t get to bathe in peace when they’re teenagers?? *sobs and reaches for cake* 😉 Thank you for your lovely comment, and thanks so much for hosting! I’m excited to be part of your linky! #momsterslink x

  11. That’s lovely…. I have to say I very much miss my bip’s…..baths in peace lol.Ahhhh those were the days, now I have to make sure my lush items aren’t being used at food stuff! Thanks for linking up lovely #bestandworst

  12. I loved reading this post! I totally agree! I am pregnant with baby #3 and wish I told myself most of those things during my first pregnancy
    Thank you for linking up with #justanotherlinky

    1. Thank you lovely. I’ve just written a post to publish next week: “Dear second time mummy to be…” about the subtle differences second time around. We’re stopping at two so I won’t experience baby number #3, but I bet you could share some very wise words! Thanks for hosting x

  13. Beautiful and touching yet funny and all so true! I especially liked the Eat without sharing…naturally. Your cousin is very lucky to have someone looking out for her. #abitofeverything + #Prose4T

    1. Well naturally 😉 I’m not sure how lucky she is as it’s me that’s looking out for her and I’m hardly SuperMum haha. I know she’ll be amazing at this whole Motherhood thing though. Thank you for commenting and hosting #abitofeverything xx

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